Hope in the Desert

Plant in the Desert

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I turned another year older recently.  Being single gets tougher every year in the 30s.  This year was weird.  Someone I was trying to get to know turned me down and then basically in the same breath asked what was wrong with me because I was 30-something and single. I also went to visit some friends out of state, and then someone asked a friend if I was gay (not that I received that as a huge put-down, because there are positives that can be drawn from that, but it was arough week, and I was afraid it would start rumors).  Am I some type of hopeless case?

It’s easy to lose hope that someday something will work things out in our lives, relationally or not, because for so long they haven’t. It can be hard to believe and hope that God is still out there working in our lives.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.

But we have to take our eyes off of ourselves.  See how God has blessed us and others.

I looked around and reminded myself what I had forgotten: how God has worked in the lives of my friends.

He has brought people together from other sides of the country, and the world.

He has given unique personalities their matches.

He brought two of my friends together when they didn’t even speak the same language.

One couple thought the other person had asked the other out, and they didn’t figure it out they were both wrong a month in.

One met his wife online when he was 40 and lived in a place where there weren’t options.

There are lots of stories out there of divine intervention.  Not all relationships show it so clearly, but those stories do exist.  Knowing God has his hands in things is a great relief when we feel like a failure, or that we’ve messed things up too much for God to figure out.  On that last point it was pointed out to me reassuringly that, “you’re not that powerful.” God is still interested in our lives, though it can be hard to see in the moment.

1 Peter 5:6,7
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.

6 thoughts on “Hope in the Desert

  1. I think it does kind of get harder the older one gets. And I am very happy for my many friends who seem to find someone. But you’re right, we can still trust Him with our lives and futures. I think I may be up for a move though like the blog you posted spoke of. And maybe we need to be more open to that “mystery casserole.” 😉

  2. I feel similarly about thinking that we’ve messed things up too much for God to figure out. In my journey I’ve realized that when I think this I also have to choose to do the right thing and my selfishness, whatever it may be, needs to be put down and recognized for what it is. One other thing is that I think we in the church have made the idea of dating too complex when it really isnt.

  3. Amen, thank you for sharing. I’m glad I clicked on this today considering I haven’t read any blogs in over a year. I believe women generally don’t think about it being as difficult for men because there is usually less stigma toward men in regards to being older and unmarried. Maybe that isn’t as true in the church, though. I am thankful that God knows me better than I know myself and wants what is best for me even if I cannot understand what that is or why…

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