I turned another year older recently. Being single gets tougher every year in the 30s. This year was weird. Someone I was trying to get to know turned me down and then basically in the same breath asked what was wrong with me because I was 30-something and single. I also went to visit some friends out of state, and then someone asked a friend if I was gay (not that I received that as a huge put-down, because there are positives that can be drawn from that, but it was arough week, and I was afraid it would start rumors). Am I some type of hopeless case?
It’s easy to lose hope that someday something will work things out in our lives, relationally or not, because for so long they haven’t. It can be hard to believe and hope that God is still out there working in our lives.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.
But we have to take our eyes off of ourselves. See how God has blessed us and others.
I looked around and reminded myself what I had forgotten: how God has worked in the lives of my friends.
He has brought people together from other sides of the country, and the world.
He has given unique personalities their matches.
He brought two of my friends together when they didn’t even speak the same language.
One couple thought the other person had asked the other out, and they didn’t figure it out they were both wrong a month in.
One met his wife online when he was 40 and lived in a place where there weren’t options.
There are lots of stories out there of divine intervention. Not all relationships show it so clearly, but those stories do exist. Knowing God has his hands in things is a great relief when we feel like a failure, or that we’ve messed things up too much for God to figure out. On that last point it was pointed out to me reassuringly that, “you’re not that powerful.” God is still interested in our lives, though it can be hard to see in the moment.
1 Peter 5:6,7
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.