Dealing With People Who Have Wronged Us

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If we keep uppermost in our minds the unkind and unjust acts of others we shall find it impossible to love them as Christ has loved us; but if our thoughts dwell upon the wondrous love and pity of Christ for us, the same spirit will flow out to others. We should love and respect one another, notwithstanding the faults and imperfections that we cannot help seeing. Humility and self-distrust should be cultivated, and a patient tenderness with the faults of others. This will kill out all narrowing selfishness and make us large-hearted and generous. – {Steps to Christ 121.1}

Ephesians 5:2 – Walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

It is impossible to live life without being wronged by someone.  I have felt betrayed by close friends and family.  People I have looked up to have let me down.  People who have been on the ‘same team’ as me have excluded me.  Non-friends have played dirty.  Honestly it happens so regularly in the world that it shouldn’t surprise me.

I’m currently dealing with a situation in this realm where there is something meaningful to me, and people involved in the situation are not making the best decisions.  What am I to do?  Am I to dwell on this until bitterness is firmly rooted in my own heart?  Am I to allow the devil to drive a wedge into relationships, which is one of his favorite things to do (this makes me think of Christian ministries that don’t work together because of personal disagreements; there are too many examples)?  Am I supposed to tell the details to those who are neither part of the problem nor of the solution?

In the end, I should cut people more slack than my natural inclination is to do.  My thoughts should be centered on Christ and his grace for me rather than the decisions and actions I disagree with.  This will cause me to be less harsh or cold in my interactions.  It might not take away the need to deal with an unpleasant situation, nor release me from an undesired outcome, but in the end I will gain character and have better relationships.

We should pray for God to help us to love like He does in situations where we have been wronged.

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